What in the world happened???

Lets see, my husband just had a 4 day weekend, and on Friday he went to Grand Rapids to see his VA Counselor.  THen we went to dinner.  Saturday we went to the flea market which was a waste of time.   Then Saturday night my daughter totaled her car, so now we are in the process of finding another one.  We then went for a 20 min drive this morning to look at a car that wasn’t even there.  Then he wouldnt go look anywhere else, so I did.  Didnt find anything really couple possibilities.

Then I went to a dealership and I found one she could make payments on which really is a bad idea, so we (her and I) decided no. 

Anyways we got home and I was talking to him about it and he just starts in about how bad of an idea it was, but he has been being rude all day, when i asked him to go with me to look at veichle. Then he said check craigslist, well tahts fine except we live in a real remote area and if i cant get him to go with me 20 mins from the house, how is it he is going to go 30 mins to an hour away to look at a car.  I hate when problems come up, i want them solved right away so I dont have to think about it and deal with it, because I get frustrated easily and it just starts eating at me.  On top of that I work so dang much if we don’t take care of it NOW, it could be sometime after Labor Day and of course he dont care, cause he isnt the one that will have to run my daughter back and forth to work or an hour away to college and sit there and wait for her to come out.  He just starts screaming and flipping me off and telling me I tell him what to do and I plan all his time off.  I don’t know what in the world is going on.  We normally go out to eat one day on the weekend and yes the flea market was not something we normally do, but we NEVER do anything.  I have been working 70-80 hrs a week, so i dont get time to do anything so i actually got the whole weekend off and wanted to do something for ONCE this summer and our kids were at a all weekend camp out so we had the whole weekend to ourselves. 

THen on top of that he was saying when we were on the way to the accident that Heather should have never quit her job, she should have still been where she was working.  She switched jobs because where she was .. was seasonal, its over this week and got a parttime all year long job.  She has to have it, she put it off ONE week already to try to finish out the season, and she told them she needed one mroe week thinking it would be over, and honestly it is over this week.  I guess it was my fault because I kept on her about getting a job that she has to have to pay for gas, car insurance and personal items that he said HE WOULD NOT PAY FOR, so if he wont then she has to.

I don’t know what to do, i guess Im just a horrible person that tells everyone what to do all the time and makes everyone around me miserble.   I am burned out from working all these hours and now im going to have to put off my job and working to run my daughter around to jobs and school, because I can not get him to even go look at a vehicle for her and she has money saved already for it, but big thing is older cars 10-13 yrs old are so darn expensive anymore.   I basically just need to decide not to do anything period, never go anywhere, never do anything and just become a hermit like i use to be.  

Now we were supposed to go to our college tomorrow to do our financial aid, forget it, im not going, he can go and take care of his.  I could careless, I know he was already mad about having to go, but like i said before I havent had a day off at all this year except weekend and lately its only just been sunday and sometimes not even then.  I have to be to work at noon tomorrow (because we arent really that busy RIGHT NOW, but normaly we are – so this is rare for me.)   I had planned on going to the campus tomorrow, then go help my daughter get her books for class then put in my application at a few places. I thought I was getting the whole day off, but im not.  Now I’ll go to work tomorrow and worry about everything that needs to be done and know its not going to get done.  I hate that, but oh well right? I guess I deserve it. 

Everyone keeps saying atleast my daughter was alright and I know thats true, but still we have a problem … The situation could be worse because she could be totally broke and she isnt, but this problem gets worse as we go on, because we cant find anything decent for the money she has.  She is also so upset because now she has NO car and she knows it was a bad judgement on her part and she is so upset cause her grandpa gave her that car and he put his own money into it and now its just gone.  I told her thats how things happen, in a instant your life is turned upside down. 

SHe just had so much going for her, job (actually 2) college paid for, a car that didnt cost her anything, and a nice savings account and she was HAPPY, now this mess.  She is also having nightmares cause she keeps dreaming about the accident.  Which will either upset her about driving again and make her not want to OR it could make her a better driver. 

Who knows what to do, we did find a van for 800.00 actually its really kind of big for her to drive but not huge like the newer vans, she would get use to it,.. it needs a muffler but whos to say my husband would work on it and i surely wouldnt ask him to because of course id be planning his time off again…

Well thats enough rambling..

Another Day at BBV

Well another day ends of work.  Looks like we MIGHT get a full week next week, but not sure, atleast I got two days of overtime this week, not as much as I normally get, but enough I guess.

Heather got her new job and tomorrow at 1, is her last day at BBV. 

I thought I would be done mid next week, but no hope for that, i should be glad, but i really want to get started on this house.    I also have to go to the college to get my stuff set for school.  Bob needs to get his stuff done also, not sure when he is going to get his done, he needs to go either Friday or Monday when he is off, but he has a VA Appointment Friday and Monday he has to drop heathers car off so no telling if he will get to it or not.

Today …

Well, today went by fairly quick .. I worked all day 7:30 – 5:10 ..  Came home and the house is still a wreck.  I am actually looking forward to the kids going back to school and having a few weeks off so I can get this house organized.  I decided I am going to start in my bathroom.  It seems like the most logical spot, it just needs organized and it will not get unorganized as fast as another room that the kids have access to.   I am not going to do my bedroom till we pulled the window AC units out, because I want to move my bed.

As far as buying a few new things to brighten up the rooms, not sure if thats going to happen, but I am going to buy some paint this weekend, i want to paint my bathroom and bedroom and I really really want to put down my new bedspread.  Bob bought me a really nice quilt and i havent used it yet, then i want to buy some new sheets to go with it to match. 

 cant believe summer is almost over and i missed it..

Thats it for tonigh.

Alone Time

The kids went with my sister n law swimming so I actually got a couple hours.  Ooooh I guess I could be cleaning, but who cleans on their only day off in 14 days? Not ME!!!!

I thought I would make a goals list.

1.  Make and complete a goals list..

2. Set realistic times for each goal..

3. Decide where to start

4. What needs to be done in the kitchen

• Cubboards cleaned out and reorganized.
• Throw out old spices and donate can goods that have been in the kitchen for quite a while
• move items not used daily/weekly to the downstairs pantry
• Clean out snack cubboard and purchase/find some plastic ware with lids to keep snack cubboard food fresh for more than a few days (kids)
• Take down baking ware (as I don’t bake much anymore) and store it in the basement pantry
• Find a large bin to store dog food
• Go through the untensil drawer and donate and toss items we do not use, store seasonal items like kabob sticks etc
• Decide what works on the kitchen counters and what doesn’t, store or toss
• We have an island which I absolutely HATE, it does have electricity and we use the inside to store our kitchen pots and pans, but i hate it, id rather have a small tall round table in there to sit at.  All it does is collect JUNK or my husband uses it to fold clothes and of course they sit there when we are working all these hours. 
• I have tried a catch all basket, nice basket to catch all the stuff that gets tosed up on the counter, well its over running and looks bad.. Catch alls not a good idea?  I guess it would be IF it was gone through once a week or every few days.. who has time?
• I have TWO junk drawers, holds are phone books and mail that comes in.. I hate it, but where do I put these things? I have a binder where my budgets are kept I guess i should get a pocket binder .. hmm idea and cheap too.
• I need see thru plastic ware big enough to hold school supplies, this time of the year i buy enough paper, folders, pencils for the WHOLE year and its quite a load but its cheap and where do I put it? ANywhere i can shove it.. Plastic ware would be a great idea then i could store it in my linen closet or in my laundry room cubboards? Where would you store it? 
• I really need to wash dishes in my cubbords, we use a lot of paper products, they are probably needing a good scrubbing.
• Dining room, ok this is where i have my table and 4 chairs, one chair sits along the wall because there are 5 of us, but i like to keep my table small instead of using the leaf all the time. I also have a tall table which is a catch all right now.. yuck, a curio cabinet that holds treasure (clean and nice) and 4 dog crates.  I do not like them in here and I need to start using my laundry room area to put them in, they only use the crates at night.
• Living room (DISASTER) i hate this room – big screen tv and a tv enteratainment center that houses the big screen, two book shelves, computer, two recliners and tall round end table (between recliners) and the kids video games everywhere.  This is my messy room for the most part, kids just take over and demolish.  They have their own entertainment centers, not sure why they do not use them????? I would like to paint it in a brownish earth tone color, clean up my recliners and then buy a few NICE items to display and leave it alone.  Too good to be true?
• entry way and closet, DISASTER, shoes everywhere and of course the closet my daughter has piles of clothes in there all the time, and of course this is where the stairs that lead to their bedrooms are and it just flows down.. yikes
• OK.. the rest of it is bathroom (3) bedrooms (5) and a laundry room.. I have a huge walk in closet that u can not walk into LOL.  If i could just get this cleaned out i could use it to store a lot of things, i went on a cleaning spree last year and threw out 3/4th of my clothes, now i have very little hanging but its time to do it again. I dont have a real clothing wardrobe. Hey i think i deserve one..
• My kids do not play with toys much anymore, my daughter has her brats and my son his dinosaurs and cars, but mostly they just have their collection of video games and gaming systems that make a huge mess everywhere.  THey are also my litle mess makers – they eat wher they want while we are at work and just destroy the place.  They are too old for baby sitters, but maybe they need one. 

blah – ok this is it for now, im overwhelmed.

Back to the drawing board.

5.

First things First

Which room to start with, as I have no start up money to put into my project.  I just want to organize the junk i have, get rid of things and of course put time limits on everything, so I am not drowning in this project.  When I walk in, i want to run screaming the other way, so something has to change.  What to keep and what to throw away is my biggest questions.  I did buy paint a couple mths back to paint the kids bathrom, so I might start bugging hubby to get that done once August is over with, right now its quite warm in the house and he would rather be outside working on a project. 

My husband always says the kitchen should be the last room you clean and organize, but is that true? 

I know every inch of my house needs a good old fashion organizing, i get so annoyed with the amount of time it takes to do even a closet that by the time i get to the next task the closet is back to being a mess, so what are my options?

I know I need a pantry, and i do have a place to put the pantry but again money is short since i just had to put 1100.00 into my car for timing belt and heads redone.. Grrrr..

Anyways.. Once I have more of an idea on when I will have more time to devote to organizing my house, I will make a goal plan.  I think a room a day or if the project is big, then a project a day. 

Some quick notes

Kitchen cubboards, everything is in reach, but not organized at all.  Any ideas on this would be helpful?  We have bottom cubboards with the shelves that pull out but they again are not organized. 

Where do you normally start when you organize and clean? Then again how long before its a disaster again?

Quite Ironic

The name of this theme (page set up) is squeaky clean, the reason it is so ironic is because my life is far from that.  This past summer I gave up my salary position (wasnt a lot of money) and went to work for my ex father n law as a seaonal employee, i didnt make as much per hour as I was before, but because of all the overtime I made over double that I would have made, but now I am going to be looking for a new job, which honestly is fine because I hated the job I had, but its never fun looking for a job or being out of a job for any period of time.   Any ol way….. my main reason for my new blog is my unorganized life and hoping to share my learning experiences with you as I start to organize my life.  Of course this will not start till after the season is over because we are working such long days right now.  My other reason for the blog is my breeding of Toy Poodle adventure.  We have 5 toy poodles, one we are trying to give to a good home, because she is a one person, no other animals in the house type dog and she isnt fitting in.  But I have 5, Christmas Present (Christy) she is 6lbs apricot toy poodle, Saint Nicholas (Nikki), 4lb 1/4oz Tiny Toy poodle and he is a burnt red color, Holiday Chocolate Delight (Holly), she is 7.5lbs and is a chocolate short legged toy poodle.  Candy Cane Kisses she is a dark red, unsure of adult size as she is only 4 mths right now, but she is a true lover of everyone and Mysti she is an 8lb silver female (the one i am looking to place in a good home).   So check back and enjoy my blog.. I hope to start organizing my house by September 1 and I hope to share a lot of interesting events and who knows maybe you can even help me get off my duff and get this done.